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Tuesday, November 29, 2005 The Morning Read: 'Blue' or brats? So-called Indigo kids with special powers generate buzz, skepticism.   By MICHAEL CORONADO The Orange County Register     "INDIGO GIRL": Carolyn Kaufman of La Habra believes her daughter, Ariel Carreño, 6, and two other children have special abilities like clairvoyance and possess a deeper awareness than most people. ANA VENEGAS, THE ORANGE COUNTY REGISTER   MORE PHOTOS LA HABRA - It was a typical kids' birthday party at Chuck E. Cheese. Pizza, games and noise. But when Carolyn Kaufman was getting her daughter, Ariel Carreño, ready to go beforehand, Ariel had an unusual request. "Mom, we need to take an orange," Ariel said. "Why?" Carolyn asked. Carolyn explained that this was a pizza party, and that an orange would probably be out of place. But when Ariel insisted, Carolyn grabbed an orange and took it to the party. For Carolyn's family, what seems odd isn't odd at all. Kaufman believes Ariel can see the future. So Ariel carried her orange into Chuck E. Cheese. The party went just as planned. The kids ate pizza. The kids played games. The parents endured the noise. Then, the birthday girl asked for the strangest thing: An orange. It's moments like this that have Kaufman convinced. She's a mom - like so many other parents - who believes her children are different than other kids. Carolyn Kaufman believes she is the mother of three "Indigo Children": Ariel, Tomy Carreño, 4, and Rueshaun Ghaemie, 10. Indigo advocates believe that many children born after 1975 possess an indigo aura around them and rare, almost supernatural traits. To the rest of the world, these kids may appear to be unruly and their parents may have gone overboard in coddling them. Indigo kids bristle at authority and have little patience. Even their advocates say they act like royalty and have no guilt. Simple acts, like waiting in lines, drive them crazy. Their parents are sure they can see the future and talk to angels. In January, a documentary, "The Indigo Evolution," will premiere in Orange County and around the world, coinciding with the World Indigo Weekend, beginning Jan. 27. The Indigo phenomenon has spawned dozens of Web sites and now two independent films. "(Ariel) is very psychic," said Kaufman, who counsels parents on how to raise Indigo children. Kaufman offered another example. One day, Ariel found out that a family friend had died. Without knowing the cause of death, Ariel speculated that the friend's blood was sick. As it turned out, the friend had died of complications from lupus and problems related to her blood. Skeptics say some parents want so badly for their kids to be special that they may mischaracterize their children's' behavior. "You have to be careful about this stuff," said Dr. Robert Butterworth, a child psychologist in Los Angeles. "Don't create some cosmic chip on their shoulders. It sounds very cute, but there could be other problems that these kids need help with, like hyperactivity. "It's OK if you think your kids have special talents, but don't think your kid is the next dalai lama of Orange County. That's going to create problems."   Kaufman grew up among a hodgepodge of faiths and beliefs. Her mother was a nun who left the convent to marry her Jewish father. She developed cancer at 23 and then lupus a year later. Traditional medicine didn't have an answer for her illness, she said. "I started asking, 'What is this (illness) all about?'" she said. She read a book called "You Can Heal Your Life" and devoted her time to learning about positive energy and natural healing. About eight years ago, she read a book on Indigo children while caring for Rueshaun, who was 2 at the time. She attended and worked at psychic fairs, co-owned an alternative-healing center and eventually opened her parental counseling service for parents of Indigo kids. She charges anywhere from $15 for a meditation class to up to $400 for Rainbow Touch workshops that explore healing and energy among other things. "I don't want people to see me as an airy fairy. I go to PTA, we go to movies."   Kaufman isn't alone in her beliefs. Retired psychotherapist Doreen Virtue describes Indigos as "little Joan of Arcs." "They are highly sensitive individuals," the Laguna Beach resident said. "These kids have a temper, but the temper seems geared toward philosophical and existential issues. Everyone I interview says (Indigo children) are angry at the state of the world." Virtue wrote "The Care and Feeding of Indigo Children" and is an associate producer of a movie about Indigo kids. Kaufman said Indigo kids like Ariel and Tomy also have a lot of energy. After fights with his sister over what to watch on TV, Tomy has broken five VCRs in the family home using only his energy force, Kaufman said. In some households, kids might get grounded for breaking electronics. Not in Kaufman's. Energy like Tomy's can make teachers pull their hair out and parents throw up their hands, Kaufman said, perhaps even cause them to seek a medical solution. That's where she comes in. Kaufman teaches parents techniques like visualization or having kids blow air - all the bad negative things - into a balloon and release them into the air. "They want to put labels on them: ADD (attention deficit disorder) or ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder)," she said. "One day people will say ADHD is a big gift." She understands some people find her claims dubious. She shrugs it off. "We are all intuitive. We all have energy."     CONTACT US: (949) 465-5424 or mcoronado

The Children of Today

Do you see the changes in the children of today?  Do you see them as being or acting different than children of the past?  Do you see them behaving totally different than you would have in the past?

If you think about all the changes in our lives and times in just the last 30 years, doesn't it make sense for the children of today to be and act different?  These children are being born into very

they know, they do not know of our past and/or the pain, control, or fear of our past.  We are transitioning from a past that for the most part no longer serves us.  However, we find ourselves in very vulnerable and sometimes challenging moments.  This is to be expected, many of us are releasing that of the past that no longer serves us, and are walking into a place that is brand new and seems almost unknown!  Once looking at this point of view, one may start to understand a lot of the frustration that lies within the gap of these generations.

It is no surprise to me to see my clients and so many come in complaining of the struggles they have with their children.  I often see and feel it with my own children as well.  I am continually shown though, that it is a huge misunderstanding on both parts. 

The parents (and sometimes teachers) don't understand why these children are so demanding, and why they have such a hard time listening to the adults.  They often refer to themselves as "when I was a child I would have never acted that way, or said those things, or disrespected an adult" etc…!  This is where the first misunderstanding comes in for the adults.  They forget that they lived in very, very different times.  Even 10 years ago things were drastically different.  How can we expect our children to react the same way we did, when things are not the same?  We have opened and requested the doors of change, well here they are!  These children come in very aware and sensitive to the energies around them.  The higher vibration of these times, have assisted these children in coming in much clearer and knowing.  They see and know much more than many adults do at this time.  Another misunderstanding that I see us as parents often do is allow the age of the children get in our way of listening and learning from them.  And so we show a lack of respect for them, and they follow in suit with us!  For it is no longer the time of  "do as I say not at I do" it is in fact very much the time of the children following exactly in our footsteps……….even mirroring us!  That is where we start to feel the challenge.  And Great, for that is what they are here to do!  They are here serving as most amazing gifts, to help us grow

 amazing times that we are still learning to adapt to.  They are coming in with these times as all and change as we have requested!

The children today get very frustrated with us, for they do not understand the fear and control we exhibit.  I see many of these children as energy sponges.  Since they are so sensitive to the energy around them they often pick up on it, and the only way they know how to deal with it is to act it out!  That is why I believe we see so much anger, frustration and violence with these children.  I feel that many of the times they are acting it out for those and the environment around them!  They do not understand our fear of our own light, power and abilities and so they see us not living our truth and this too creates frustration for them.  They do not understand many of the processes we go through.  They often do not understand why we feel unworthy and undeserving of so much, and because they (until shown otherwise) know their worth so well often act as royalty; and this sometimes shows as a problem for us.  Many adults take this, I believe in the wrong way.  For aren't we all starting to remember our true value and worth.  Even working towards accepting it and loving ourselves enough to show it?  Well then, why do we act so surprised when they display their confidence in themselves?  To many of the children we are walking contradictions.  We talk of healing and of loving ourselves but for one we do not always show it, and often put them down for showing and requesting it. 

Please do not misunderstand me.  This is in no way criticism or judgment on what or how we do things as parents and teachers.  It is simply another way of viewing what is happening to possibly help shift our consciousness and direction with the children in our lives.  The children also have their part of the lessons.  I often work with them on being more patient with us, and where we come from.  I try to explain to them about our background to help them grow greater understanding and patience of the adults in their lives.  I also see (and work with them on this) that they need a little guidance on how to adapt to these times and energies that do not resonate with them.  They could use assistance with energy clearing, grounding and balancing for themselves and their environment.

I believe that if both parents and children start to take some time to really understand where the other is coming from,  our relationships would grow much stronger.  If we could learn to take each day as it truly is………a new day, and see the other person as new, releasing all expectations and assumptions; we would bring so much more balance, harmony and clearer communication to our relationships and families!   I look forward with great excitement to the time where the gap with our children grows less and less!!

Many Blessings of Love, Growth and Joy!

Carolyn Kaufman, CSC

Children of Today -Where Do We Go From Here?

As we start to hear more and more about these amazing Children of Today we start to ask ourselves what do we do now. 

Now that we are starting to realize that these children might have something to tell us and share with us.  Where do we go from here?  How do we get past our former beliefs of child raising, schooling and parenting?  How do we let go of the control and fear without having children who are out of control? 

I am finding that there is a great deal of fear that stops us from changing.  The fear that has been consciously or sub-consciously embedded in the back of our mind probably from the beginning of our journey here…….. What will people think?  What will people think if I allow my child to say what she thinks?  What will people think if I allow my child to have green hair?  What will people think if my child screams, yells, or cries in public?  What will people think if I allow my child to be just who he or she is? 

There is a great deal of fear that what or how our children behave reflects back to how we raised or taught them.  How about changing our focus just a bit to seeing it as being time to change, and how wonderful that my children are so secure about themselves that they can be just who they are wherever they are!  What an amazing gift that we can learn from our children. 

Another fear that really stems from the first is that if I let my children do what they want, then they will be spoiled.  I am here to ask, what is wrong with learning that you deserve what you want?  Isn't that another lesson that many of us are working on?  I know for myself I have lived so much of my life being a people pleaser, that it takes everything I have to be ok to ask for and accept what I truly want.  I have to then ask myself why should I teach my children that they do not deserve or that they cannot have everything they want.  Yes, I understand that it doesn’t always happen, we don't always get what we want!!  But why??  Why do we not get what we want, and what would happen if we truly believe that we deserve what we want?  Do you realize the times we are in right now?  We are manifesting our thoughts more rapidly than ever before.  If we changed our perception just a little here, we would see another awesome lesson we could learn from our children.  If we could change our thoughts from not believing or not feeling deserving of what we what, to knowing (like our children do) that we are more than deserving.  And believe and feel it within that we could truly have what we want…………it's like magic………..poof, we would have it.  There also comes a time when it is not the right time for us to have what we desire, that is a lesson that each one of us must learn on our own.  But who made us that teacher?  Unless it is going to physically hurt someone else or themselves, then what is wrong with them or us having what we want? 

I find that if it is something that is truly not good for them, they will figure it out on their own.  I am learning that I am only a guide for my children, to be here to lovingly guide them.  I don't believe it was ever meant for me to create my children's path or to show them who they are.  I am here to give them the space and guidance from what I have learned here to help them be who they are.  I do not want them to be me, that would not work.  When I try to control what they want to do, that is because it does or does not work for me.  The big challenge is to remember they are not me, and are never going to be me, and what is good for me might not necessarily be good for them.

As we start to remember these beliefs, and release the control of our reign over our children we will start to see a difference.  The relationship with our children will change, now instead of trying to force them to be someone they are not, we are giving them the respect to be who they are.  We are also showing them that we love them no matter what, we love them for who they are (unconditional love)……..not who we want them to be.  This opens the door for a whole new relationship with our children, showing them that they are more important than our fears of what others may think. 

This may lead you into the roots that go back into your childhood and what you learned from this world so far.  It is much easier for the healing to take place when we do not judge what or how things happened for us.  If we can just learn to accept that, that was the way it was then and it was exactly as it needed to be, we free our selves to open the doors for change.  If we take away any blame or judgement that may otherwise hold us back from the necessary changes to free us from our own chains.  We can look at what is happening now as a brand new experience in a brand new time and allow ourselves to flow with the experiences of today!!

Many blessings to you all on this amazing journey! Please remember to love the children in your life enough to allow them to be who they are…And love yourself enough to be you!!!

©  Copyright  Carolyn Kaufman 2002

Children of Today

Who are they and what are they about?

Children of Today (Indigo Children) are children who seem to be different than we are used to seeing. The name Indigo comes from the color of their Aura or Life Force. These children are often (but not always) described as being hyperactive, system busters, having short attention spans, difficulty with authority, very demanding on expressing their wants, often acting as though they are royalty, have problems with standing in line, and they appear much wiser than their years. They know who they are and why they are here. To learn what works best with them, we need to understand them a little better. The Indigo children are born with more awareness, and most of them are very sensitive to the energies in their environment. They often have different sleep rhythms, needs and wants than we do.

These children come into this world with the knowingness and ability to create the New World. They are here to help usher us into the consciousness of complete love and peace. In our society and past patterns, the mass consciousness is filled with violence, negativity and fear. They do not need to be a part of this or learn this, why would they? They are here to teach us and help us move into this consciousness of love and peace, why should they be exposed to our old patterns of fear? Why would we want them to experience what we so desperately are trying to get rid of and cleanse? It does not make sense, so you can then understand where their frustration comes in.

Please understand that this in no way is about judgment or criticism. It is about learning, changing and growing! We are bringing out this information to help open society to the truth, that it is time to make some changes, especially at home and in the school systems. It is time for us to take a good look and be honest with ourselves, and see what it is we need to change. This is what these children challenge us to do. If we remember not to hold any judgments upon ourselves it is much easier to make the changes necessary.

Carolyn Kaufman, CSC 

Choosing Our Truth Together!

Hello and Many Blessings,

I know that this is a time of many fleeting feelings.  I ask you to look deep within your own heart to search for the truth!!  That is where it lies, go beneath your fears to seek out the truth, and then walk forward tall and proud with this truth.  It is time for us to step fully into our own power.  We have been called to do this for some time now.  We have been preparing for this time, through all of our clearing, releasing and healing.  So lets hold hands as we step forward and accept our power.  Let's hold hands as together, we shine our light to it's full potential.  It is time to release the events of the past and of our past actions and beliefs, search your heart now as it stands and be who you are Now!!  Allow the layers to shed, as you come face to face with your shadows.  Give any resistance you are feeling over to the Divine as you remember your truth.  Allow any feelings that have been buried to arise, so you may clear them.  As you do this, you clear the blocks that are serving as obstacles for you to step forward.  Let's work together to help each other in all the areas needed for us to move forward.  Let's release judgment and work together seeing beneath the illusion of separation.  We all offer different tools for the process of clearing/releasing and healing, ............not one better than another just different.  The time has come for us to come together and share these tools for the highest good of all involved.  Letting go of any old mistakes in thinking of competition, insecurity, lack and/or fear.  We can affirm that we are willing to release anything that no longer serves our highest good, and that we are willing to receive this Divine Healing now with Gratitude and then breath in and out fully releasing and accepting!!!  Now,.... we may move forward with more ease.  It is time to have compassion and forgive the mistakes in thinking and in actions of ourselves and others, let go of judgment so we can be free to move forward.   And here we go, we are on our way!!  Feel your heart open and expand, ready and willing to accept love to the fullest.  Ready and willing to accept your Divine Power, Strength, Beauty, Healing and Abundance!!!  Make the choice now to Surrender to your Divine Essence, choose to allow your Divine Presence to come forth fully Now!!  Let us all choose this together, Let us join our hands as we make this choice together and shine our light as it goes out in multitudes!!  Let this be the answer to all that we see and feel right now.

With Many Blessings of Beauty, Love and Truth

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